After spending an hour and a half with my counselor I am led to believe that I am not wrong in my feelings. S.H. has helped me figure out that I'm not nuts when I think that my children are a pain in the ass. He validated my thoughts on the tick, that he is a self interested hurricane black hole of need. He also agrees that I need to take care of myself from an emotional standpoint when it comes to child number three. Silence screams louder than anything in this world. So, let the roar of that silence quake the soul.
The spousal unit is in the grieving process over the grandchild leaving. She was talking about being tired while she was here and missing the noise when she is gone. What I have not felt was any degree of this from the parent. The other was lamenting the degree of energy expended in caring for them. Gee, who would have thought that it is really energy, time consuming taking care of a child.
The problem as I see it is that this is a case of children having to raise children. If anyone thinks that I give two shits about how hard it is, how it impacts their lives or any other issue in their lives, they are very wrong. I have been there and done that. Especially with number two, he can have sex with everything with two legs as far as I'm concerned but I will not raise, support or take care of their offspring from here on. As for that crap they pulled on vacation, that was twice and done. First and last, I will not be transporting them (either or both) on any future trips anywhere. As for number three, I will wait for the silence to become unbearable.
An asshole, maybe but I will not sacrifice my sanity for a bunch of children who want only what they want. I don't care how it sounds or how looks but I will take of me and mine and they can figure it out for themselves.
Consider this my shot across the bow.
The spousal unit is in the grieving process over the grandchild leaving. She was talking about being tired while she was here and missing the noise when she is gone. What I have not felt was any degree of this from the parent. The other was lamenting the degree of energy expended in caring for them. Gee, who would have thought that it is really energy, time consuming taking care of a child.
The problem as I see it is that this is a case of children having to raise children. If anyone thinks that I give two shits about how hard it is, how it impacts their lives or any other issue in their lives, they are very wrong. I have been there and done that. Especially with number two, he can have sex with everything with two legs as far as I'm concerned but I will not raise, support or take care of their offspring from here on. As for that crap they pulled on vacation, that was twice and done. First and last, I will not be transporting them (either or both) on any future trips anywhere. As for number three, I will wait for the silence to become unbearable.
An asshole, maybe but I will not sacrifice my sanity for a bunch of children who want only what they want. I don't care how it sounds or how looks but I will take of me and mine and they can figure it out for themselves.
Consider this my shot across the bow.
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