When your boomerangs on the roof...

When the tick finally returned to the "crash" last night/this morning it was the same old crap.  Shoes left in the middle of the floor, dining chair against the wall and bowls left in the sink.  I am so tired of this I could literally scream.  But the good news (for me anyway) is that I plan on living my life just as if the tick was not here.  That means cleaning and vacuuming on my days off while I have the time so I can do nothing later.

I figure that as long as its comfortable here, nothing will change.  When it gets to be hard to sleep or not having meals ready, then the message will be understood.  Anyway, I have miles to go before I sleep.

I thought about the old problem with boomerangs when I was a kid.  You threw the thing several times and invariably it would land on someones roof.  Since we did not own a tall ladder in those days, it stayed on the roof until the sun damaged it or a storm blew it off.  Usually it had been on the roof too long and was virtually destroyed by the elements by then.  As the parent of a boomerang child I can say that I'm ready to throw them on the roof.  The message has not been understood and so far as I am concerned it is time for them to deal with the elements.

The mom unit admitted that her "helping" up to this point has done nothing more than enable the tick to do what has been done in the past.  Instead of learning from past mistakes, correcting and moving into positive territory, the tick has retreated into the old familiar ground.  Having fun now and worrying about bills, car, apartment/house, etc., later...much later.  So now I need to figure out do I cut my loses by kicking them out.  Give them the vehicle they now drive (the one we paid for and they have not) and count the loan as a one time gift and move on.  It is beginning to sound much better than prolonging the agony, suffering and expense of having them here.

To all of you who read this and have children, be smart and heed this advice.  DO NOT give your children things in order to make it easier for them.  They need to learn to do without or what it takes to get the things that make life easier.  All that has been done thus far for ours has done nothing but make them lazy.  The old adage about the best cure for blisters is so very true.  It goes something like this "the best cure for blisters are callouses".  The young adults of today want us to purchase new gloves for them so they will not get blisters or have rough calloused hands.  On top of this they don't have time to do the work right now because they have plans to do something fun.